Change in a Marriage (and in Your Life)

You need to know what you want from your relationship

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Some anonymous author once said that life is simple:  “Are you happy? -  keep going.  Are you unhappy? - change something”  I know that it seems a bit tongue in cheek but there’s actually a practical wisdom to it.  My wife (a smart lady and a mother to six) has said this in one form or another to our kids for as long as I remember and it’s made all the difference in their lives.  If you can empower someone to believe that they have the right and the capacity to make a change in their life, you have granted the gift of freedom.

I want you to understand that you have the power to make changes in your own life.  Changes can be little or big, or more significantly, you can make  little changes that can have big outcomes.


Life Change is a subject that is dear to my heart.  I sincerely believe that we do have the power to make changes in our lives.


In this case I am talking specifically about making changes in marriages.  In our practice, let’s face it, no one ever comes to see us to complain that their marriage is wildly successful and they couldn’t be happier.  Everyone we see is unhappy on some level and changes must be made.


But here’s the thing:  changes can be made and they should be made.  Changes in a relationship can run the whole gamut from walking away from the whole business to making small changes in your own attitude and behaviour that can have a big impact on your partner and your marriage further down the track.  This last you can do even without the input of your spouse and that can have a very successful outcome too.  

But it’s important for you to know exactly where on the scale you are.  Walking away is a very last resort, only after everything else fails.  We have a whole lot of less serious things to do before we look at that option.


I believe that we all can be happy on some level and in marriage coaching I start the process with you by helping you take a deep look at the current state of your relationship:  Where do things stand right now?   Where would you like them to be in the future?  Then we work out a strategy and begin working on those changes I’ve been talking about.


Remember:  “Nothing changes if nothing changes”.  If you want to see a change in your marriage, you have to be prepared to make the change yourself.


Call me.  I can help.



Jim



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