Has Your Wife Gone Quiet on You?

Please—take a moment. You need to hear this:

If you and your wife are in conflict and suddenly she has gone quiet, it usually means one thing:

Hope has died in her heart.

And when hope dies… despair moves in.

Then, after the despair, love dies too.

Now, the only path left to a broken woman is self-preservation. When she no longer feels safe and loved, she

has nowhere else to go. The drive to survive is in her DNA.

When your wife stops talking, it’s not because she has nothing to say. It’s because she really believes that nothing

she says is going to make a scrap of difference. Because she’s already said it - Again and again. And you

can’t argue with that, because it’s true.

This is not peace—it’s surrender.

She’s just given up fighting.

It’s actually a tragic situation … and it certainly doesn’t mean that you’ve won.

Trust me:

If you want to save your marriage, something has to change. Now.

Here’s the thing, as Stephen Covey said:

“You can’t talk your way out of something you behaved yourself into.”

When she’s heard it all before, more talk isn’t going to help.

The only thing that’s going to work now is action.

I’m Jim Kennedy

I’ve spent much of my recent life working with people in relationships—listening, talking, and walking with them

through some tough places.

I’ve also been married to the same lady for a long, long time. Long enough to learn what most men never get told:

when your wife stops talking, it doesn’t mean peace. It means just the opposite - it’s a warning sign.

Here’s the thing:

You’re a man and you’re in a marriage, and you’ve got a job to do. The rules and responsibilities are clear: If there’s

conflict at home, in the end it’s usually the man in the mirror who needs to change the narrative. But be clear, the way

forward for you is ownership of the problem. And taking action:

You can forget being impressed by the sound of your own voice, because it’s too late for talking. That ship has sailed.

Remember: “You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do” C.G. Yung

Let’s start with you and I having a hard talk. We need to make this as simple as possible: What’s wrong and how can

you fix it?