Do you ever Wonder How Happy Your Marriage is Going to be in 20 Years?
Or in 10 years ? Or even in 5 years?
When you fell in love and got married, how did you see the future of your marriage? Did you envision years of happiness and growing older still enjoying the company of someone whose touch gave you goosebumps? How is that working out? If it’s how you dreamed it would be, then I’m delighted for you.
Sadly it’s sometimes not as good as the couple planned and oftentimes, the partners just drift apart.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Marriages can feel like they were made in heaven. You can plan for your relationship to last the distance and it’s even possible for marriages in crisis to be saved. But it takes work and commitment!
I don’t know who ever said that having a successful marriage was easy. I haven’t known a marriage yet, even the really happy ones that weren’t the result of a lot of hard work - even if that work is largely unconscious.
Is this a surprise though, really? I honestly struggle to identify anything, or anyone, successful which isn’t the result of someone having put in a lot of hard work somewhere. And just like really successful people are always working hard, so it must be with relationships. If you want a happy and successful marriage that will last through the years, it takes planning and effort.
A nice car, a lovely home, keeping healthy and fit, raising a family you can be proud of. None of these things happen by themselves. They all need maintenance and attention to be at their best. Why would your relationship be any different?
Here’s the thing: If you’re planning to be married to your spouse forever, and you should be, why wouldn’t you make those years as happy and as fulfilling as possible.
It’s possible for one partner to dramatically change the dynamic in a marriage with a change in approach and by changing some of your habits, regularly over time. It won’t happen overnight but it definitely can happen.
Make an appointment to talk to me very soon. Let’s get you started.
